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You either believe that words matter, or they dont. I tell you, it is becoming increasingly difficult to make sure I do not sound too gay. Possibly, I need to eliminate "oh my stars". Damned, I will check my delivery in the mirror, get the sneer to coincide with saying the word suck, get rid of the "right ladies", butch it up a bit and this can probably pass as a normal guy making a normal posting on a gay escort site. Did that sound too gay? I was going for really normal in this post. Oh maybe I should have left out the "right ladies". Oh my stars, I used the word suck in a sentence and did not do a slyly sexual wink. So, I think it is time suck up the excessive righteous indignation about "normal", right ladies. Yet it is clear to me that was the intent of his words and at the core all three phrasing carry the message that there is a gay template.
If rather than "normal", he had said: "My character was developed in a manner which avoided stereotypical gay cliches" or if he had said: "I play my character in a way to avoid overt affectations" this would not be news. While they may not be on film, in real life there are millions of gay men who are acting straight. I just think that spectrum is sort of a bell curve.
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That doesn't deny fairly common exceptions for both groups that result in a full spectrum. I believe there are common behaviors that are typically exhibited by sraight men and other behaviors that are more typically exhibited by gay men. All of the rest of us have enough OGTs that we would recognize each other as "family" either immediately or pretty quickly.
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Another has traits that a gay man will recognize - gym sculpted body, skin tight t-shirts, impeccable grooming - but you would still wonder if he is gay or just Metro. ) People are shocked when they find out he is gay.
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(Obviously Gay Traits - from the movie Broken Hearts Club. I look at my group of friends and only one has no OGTs. I don't think anyone should have to conform to them or be shamed when they don't, but that doesn't deny the fact that they are real and that most straight men adopt them with ease and many gay men do not. Just like I'm tired of politicians with alternative facts, I find it tedious when gay men don't acknowledge that there are typical masculine traits within a culture. I think a much better word choice is "typical" although a lot of the uber politically correct or effeminate men will not like that either. (I have a nephew with Down Syndrome and you should see my sister bristle anytime someone compares him to "normal" kids.) However, as carey mentions, "normal" has so many negative connotations that I think it is best avoided when you're comparing groups. I think it's obvious his heart is in the right place. I have no problem with what the actor said. So what is a better word for that besides normal? If gays continue to define behaviors as straight, it conveys conformity with "normal." That may further tolerance. Guys who describe themselves as straight-acting are really saying either "Im concerned that others may somehow associate my being gay with traditional feminine sterotypical behaviors" or "I'm faking it, because I'm afraid to just be myself" The key word in "straight-acting" is acting, not straight. In reality, a guy labelled nelly, a guy with limp-wrists, is no less manly than the gruff-spoken, hairy chested lumberjack. The dictionary defines masculine in terms of traditional associations. I think many are obsessed with stereotypical gay mannerisms as if they're somehow un-masculine behavior. The perpetuation of behavioral stereotypes only do harm. Maybe some day we'll get beyond characterizing behaviors as straight or gay.